When I started Chatfield Court, 2 1/2 years ago, I wanted to make it a place where I could share my love of DIY, offer some inspiration and maybe have a laugh or two. It’s been my happy place and I have loved sharing it with all of you. One thing that I haven’t shared much of is family stuff. The reason for that is because they, my 2 daughters, are grownups with their own lives and I have always tried to respect their privacy.

This weekend though, something frightening and terrible happened to our family and I knew that I couldn’t do a regular post, asking about your weekend and telling you ours was fine, when it wasn’t. I may lose some of you who’ve come for a DIY or a decorating idea but I try to keep things real and I felt this was the right thing to do, for me.

Saturday morning we got a call from my 25 year old daughter “M”, who lives in California, and it was the kind of call that every parent dreads. M and her boyfriend, and they’re two dogs, drove to the Eastern Sierras for a weekend getaway. They were driving down a road after leaving a hot springs when they hit a patch of black ice, losing control and flipping the car over. Luckily, luckily they had seat belts on and were able to get out of the car. They were all fine, pretty shook up, but physically fine.

My daughter was in an accident with her Subaru Forrester |

Then she sent us a picture of her car, or what was left of it. The reality of what happened sunk in fast. The back-end of the car was completely flattened. The front of the car, where they were sitting, didn’t look too bad but I couldn’t help but think that if it had happened the other way around…

Our youngest daughter was in an accident with her Subaru Forrester | chatfieldcourt.comSaturday was a blur that was spent on the phone texting and calling each other, trying to keep our oldest daughter, who lives in Denver, updated and just reminding each other how very lucky we were that they were ok. I’ll tell you that I had a sleepless night Saturday and I shed more than a few tears thinking that it could have been so much worse. All I wanted to do was hug her, see her with my own eyes, and tell her that everything was going to be ok. When you live so far away though, you can only rely on your phone. The hubs and I tried to stay busy Sunday, to distract ourselves, but our day was spent worrying and waiting for the call that they were finally home and safe.

M’s car was totaled and they had to get a rental so they could drive the 6 1/2 hours home. I know that she’s still pretty shaken and I’m not sure what she’ll do about a car so things will be rough for a while. I’ll do my best to be there for her and remind her that they are here, they are ok and that’s all that really matters.

A grateful heart |

Thanks so much for visiting and for letting me share my heart.

I’ll be back on Friday with something lighter. In the meantime I share this little PSA with you…please make sure to always wear your seat belt and remember to tell the ones you love how much they mean to you.  I hope your week is great!

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  1. Mickey Wood
    Monday,January 18, 2016 / 6:25 am

    I would rather hear a bit of real life than another story about th millionth planked wall or gigantic stove hood or gray wall, especially since it ended well considering that the only actual loss was a car that can be replaced ed. Your message was so important: tell/show our loved ones how much h they mean to us every chance we get. And wear seat belts! : )
    Mickey Wood
    Nashua NH

    • Kristi
      Tuesday,January 19, 2016 / 12:14 am

      You are so right Mickey, a car is replaceable but lives are not. We have always worn seat belts but we believe that it saved their lives so I thought it was important to remind others to always buckle up. Thanks so much for stopping in and sharing your thoughts.

  2. Gloria
    Monday,January 18, 2016 / 6:28 am

    Lucky is not the right word for what happen, but blessed. God blesses us in so many ways and looking at your daughter’s car, God truly blessed her, so blessed is the word here. Thanks for sharing your heart.

    • Kristi
      Tuesday,January 19, 2016 / 12:15 am

      Thank you Gloria, we do feel truly blessed.

  3. Kim
    Monday,January 18, 2016 / 8:22 am

    Oh my gosh, Kristi. I am so sorry. Thank goodness they are ok…it’s every parent’s worst nightmare. So glad that you shared today. Sending smiles and good thoughts to your whole family.

    • Kristi
      Tuesday,January 19, 2016 / 12:17 am

      Thanks so much my friend. We’re just so thankful that they are ok. I appreciate your good thoughts.

  4. Virginia
    Monday,January 18, 2016 / 8:34 am

    It i so good to hear that your daughter, her boyfriend and their animals are okay. God does give us blessings and this is one for the both of you. Be grateful and yes, I agree, you should always tell the ones you love how much you love them. Thanks for sharing and God bless you and your family.

    • Kristi
      Tuesday,January 19, 2016 / 3:39 am

      Thank you for the lovely sentiments. I truly appreciate it.

  5. Jessica [Havok]
    Monday,January 18, 2016 / 10:03 am

    SO very happy to hear that they are both alright! Car accidents of any kind are terrible to deal with, let alone something like this! But I am glad to hear that everyone is alright and were able to make it home – not awesome about the car, but cars can be replaced, people cannot!
    And of course, feel free to share whatever you want to share – I can’t speak for everyone else, but I know that I enjoy reading your writing, no matter what the subject!

    • Kristi
      Wednesday,January 20, 2016 / 3:58 am

      Thank you Jessica, I truly appreciate your comment. We are all trying to get back to life and not dwell but something like this really changes the way you look at things.

      I wasn’t sure what to expect when I shared this but I am completely overwhelmed by the response and beautiful thoughts I’ve received from you and everyone else. Thanks!

  6. Brenda, Florida
    Monday,January 18, 2016 / 9:07 am

    Lucky indeed! I am so happy to hear they were not injured. Please feel free to share with us. We all have our experiences, good or bad. Sending up prayers for you and your family.

    • Kristi
      Tuesday,January 19, 2016 / 3:34 am

      Thanks so very much for the prayers Brenda!

  7. Carol Rodenbaugh
    Monday,January 18, 2016 / 9:24 am

    This column is very personal to me for several reasons. I am very grateful and blessed that it ended well for all. Events such as this only go to show how little say we have over our own lives. We are not in control. M and her boyfriend surely had angels riding with them watching out for their safety. Thank you Lord.
    Family love is the most important love we all have.
    A mother’s love for her children never ever ends.

    • Kristi
      Wednesday,January 20, 2016 / 5:29 am

      It’s so true, we do have little say over our own lives. We are just thankful that the front of the car, where they were sitting, stayed intact. It was a miracle and a huge blessing.

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

  8. Monday,January 18, 2016 / 9:31 am

    OMG! Lucky and BLESSED indeed Kristi! I am so glad M and her Bf are fine! What a wreck! These kinds of things make me believe that miracles do happen everyday! Also lucky they were on a Subaru which I’ve heard, is excellent safety-wise overall!!!!!!! Hugs to all of you!

    • Kristi
      Tuesday,January 19, 2016 / 3:44 am

      Thanks Vel, I truly appreciate your comment. . We are so thankful that they were in a Subaru, which are supposed to be excellent safety-wise. The car had given her some trouble since she got it and she was talking about selling it but I’m glad, if this had to happen, that they were in that car.

  9. Sue
    Monday,January 18, 2016 / 11:08 am

    Thank you for sharing. I truly believe God works in mysterious and wonderful ways. You all are so Blessed for the great outcome. I would have broken down too. When it comes to our kids, no matter how old they get, they are still our kids. God Blessed you all. Thank you for reminding everyone to “buckle up”! I don’t back out of our driveway without being buckled up. Hugs and prayers to all of you!

    • Kristi
      Wednesday,January 20, 2016 / 3:42 am

      Thanks so much Sue for your thoughts and prayers. We do feel truly blessed for the great outcome, it could have easily turned very tragic. I do think that having their seat belts on made a huge difference and I’m so glad that it’s something they always do.

  10. Monday,January 18, 2016 / 11:09 am

    Oh Kristi your post brought tears to my eyes. I experienced the same thing with my son except he wasn’t wearing a seat belt and hung out of the sunroof while the car rolled across the highway seven times. He is fine now with no residual problems. I could never bring myself to look at the car though. I wish I was there to give you a big hug but since I can’t, know I am sending you a virtual hug. Yes, we never know how long we will have our loved ones so tell them often how much you love them. Keeping you in my heart and prayers. Debbie.

    • Kristi
      Wednesday,January 20, 2016 / 3:15 am

      Oh my goodness Debbie, what a horrible experience for your son and for you. I’m so glad to hear that he is ok. I know what you mean about looking at the car, I want to cry every time I look at it. Thanks for the hugs my friend. I’m truly feeling the love and I’m so grateful for all of the kind words and prayers.

  11. Patty
    Monday,January 18, 2016 / 11:18 am

    What a horrible experience to go through, can’t help but think God’s hand guided their car and kept it from being a tragic accident. It is hard when your family is so far away, during holidays, birthdays the births of grandchildren, nieces and nephews, and of course events such as these.
    Thank God they are ok, and thank you for sharing with us and for getting a very important message out there to always, always where your seat belt, seat belts save lives every single day.

    • Kristi
      Wednesday,January 20, 2016 / 3:21 am

      It is very difficult being so far away from my girls, especially when something like this happens. We’ve been all talking a lot more on the phone this week though, checking up on each other.

      You are so right about seat belts and I’m so glad that they don’t drive without wearing them. Thanks for stopping in Patty and for sharing your thoughts.

  12. chris aka monkey
    Monday,January 18, 2016 / 11:58 am

    someone said lucky and blessed and that sums it up, i can’t imagine why readers would ditch you for this post so don’t worry about that you have enough on your plate right now, as a parent of adult children i know how hard it is not to see them as babies(which they will always be in our eyes) and want to just scoop them up and kiss all of their booboos away hugs xx

    • Kristi
      Wednesday,January 20, 2016 / 3:29 am

      Yes we are truly lucky and blessed. I’ve never liked living so far away from them but going through all of this was excruciating, especially as we waited for the phone to ring so we could get updates. I knew though, that if I needed to, I could hop on a plane and be there in a few hours.

      Thanks so much for stopping in and for sharing your thoughts, I truly appreciate it.

  13. MaryJean
    Monday,January 18, 2016 / 2:18 pm

    I can imagine how you must have felt being so far away when something like this happens to your child. My DIL and grandson flew to Las Vegas this past week for her brother’s wedding (K was to be the ring bearer). I told her just text me that you are there when you land. I don’t need anything else but to know you got there okay. They arrived home this morning and luckily since we were expecting a big snow storm it didn’t happen and they landed fine. This certainly does not compare to what you went through, but just the thought of something happening to them while we are so far away was scary. Cars can be replaced. It is only an object, but lives cannot and my family is grateful that your family is just fine.
    One bright spot for us was we got to have our granddaughter with us for a few days. Daddy stayed here bc of his business and P stayed with us for a few days.
    Take your time to recoup from this unfortunately accident and know that all your readers are praying for all of you.

    • Kristi
      Wednesday,January 20, 2016 / 3:36 am

      I really hate being so far away and going through all of this, waiting for the phone to ring for updates was horrible.

      I’m so glad that your DIL and grandson got home safe. I worry like that every time I say goodbye to the girls. You just learn to put it someplace else, otherwise it’s easy to obsess and get depressed.

      Thanks MJ for stopping in and sending your thoughts and prayers, I truly feel uplifted by all of the well wishes I’ve been getting.

  14. Marijean Jenson
    Monday,January 18, 2016 / 3:12 pm

    So glad everyone is ok !

    • Kristi
      Tuesday,January 19, 2016 / 3:45 am

      Thank you Marijean! We are very grateful.

  15. Monday,January 18, 2016 / 3:17 pm

    Oh Kristi! How awful… I’m so glad everyone is okay though. Thank God!

    Big hugs to you, my friend,

    • Kristi
      Tuesday,January 19, 2016 / 3:46 am

      Awww, thank you Rue. I am certainly feeling the love.

  16. Jan
    Monday,January 18, 2016 / 3:57 pm

    I’m so sorry to hear about their accident but I am also grateful that they are both okay. Growing up and living in Canada, I’m very familiar with icy roads. I used to live in an area that had icy, snowy roads 6 months of the year. I thought I had gone to heaven when I moved to another part of Canada that only has snow for 3 months of the year. It’s almost like living in the tropics to my way of thinking.

    But I have to say, black ice is the absolute worst thing. Regular thick ice can be seen, so you drive accordingly (for ice-covered roads and all that entails). Black ice is different because it is invisible. It is microscopically thin so you are unaware it is there and you come upon it driving as if you were on dry road conditions. Very scary. You’ve had a first hand account of what happens.

    Thank you for sharing and please don’t apologize for doing so. We are all humans and we make the world a better place when we open up to each other. When we understand what worries and pressures are upon each other’s heart, we’re far more able to respectfully understand each other and why we react to things the way we do.

    I’m looking forward to spring. It’s still months away but I know the ice will be gone! (I’ve slipped on black ice while walking which gave me a concussion and whiplash injury. If I said I hate black ice, would you believe me?)

    • Kristi
      Wednesday,January 20, 2016 / 4:12 am

      Thank you so much Jan for your kind words Jan. I’ve had a few incident with black ice too so I completely understand your deep dislike. It is dangerous, to say the least, and there’s not much you can do when you’ve hit it. I’m just grateful that we’ve had a good outcome this time.

  17. Tuesday,January 19, 2016 / 12:45 am

    Just cruising down the highway of life and BAM a blast hits you….knocks you sideways and changes you forever. So happy your girl is safe. This past year my daughter was diagnosed with cancer and we began a crazy tearful trip through cancer/chemo land. I understand your worry and fear so well. Those unexpected “blasts” hit us when we least expect them.

    • Kristi
      Wednesday,January 20, 2016 / 3:08 am

      You are so right Mel. You think you’ve got things figured out and something big comes along and changes everything. I’m so sorry to hear about your daughter. I can’t even imagine the devastating heartache you must feel. My thought and prayers for good health are with you and your daughter.

      • Wednesday,January 20, 2016 / 11:12 pm

        Thank you for your good wishes! I found you through Instagram and as much as I enjoy seeing the beautiful home pictures everyone posts, I loved reading your blog about real life and real hurts. Beautiful pillows just don’t cut it when cancer and illnesses and accidents enter our lives. ? Bless you!!

        • Kristi
          Friday,January 22, 2016 / 1:58 am

          Thanks so much Mel, I’m so glad that you found me. You are so right…beautiful pillows don’t cut it when accidents, cancer and illness . enter our lives. My hope though, is that when you come to visit we can connect and support each other and maybe have a moment or two where we don’t have to be so stressed. My best to you and your daughter. 🙂

  18. Nancy
    Tuesday,January 19, 2016 / 8:10 am

    I very scary experience for your daughter and her boyfriend that ended well. Vehicles can be replaced. Black ice is horrible! I hit a patch once on an interstate bridge while driving across country with my late husband. We were in our small Nissan pick-up at night. The truck fishtailed, and I just tried to stay calm, praying all the time for God to help us. I knew if I lost control of the truck we’d hit the semi and it would be over. Our truck slid into the guard rail and by God’s grace we rode that rail all the way off the bridge and then the truck slid into the median ditch. We had a broken wheel. That’s all. I don’t think the semi driver even realized what was going on because he didn’t stop. Truck drivers usually stop. At least that’s been my experience. Anyway, we used our cell to call AAA and were towed to the nearest town where we stayed in a motel until the repair shop could take care of our truck. I’ll never forget that night and I’m so grateful to God that we survived it. I guess you an see I’m a “believer”. There’ve been too many incidents like this in my life that make me so. I’m so very glad your girl is safe and sound, Kristi. Hugs, Nancy

    • Kristi
      Wednesday,January 20, 2016 / 3:04 am

      Oh my Nancy, it sounds like you had a scary experience too. Black ice is no joke. I’m a “believer” too Nancy. How can you not be after something horrible like this happens. Thanks so much for stopping in and sharing your story.

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